Archive for the ‘Love’ Category

Straight But Not Narrow

Tuesday, June 16th, 2009

OnePinky sister, Sara, recently wrote this testimony in honor of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Pride Month and I wanted to share it with you all:

I like to say that I’m straight, but not narrow. I’m married to a man, but I can appreciate the curves of a woman just as much as I can the broad torso of a man. I might have a crush on Will Smith—but I’ve also had a little thing going for Rosario Dawson for a while (yes, Seven Pounds just made my entire year). And while I’m all for getting married if you want to—or not if you don’t!—for straight couples, I’m completely the same for gay and lesbian couples, too.

In other words, I’m straight but not narrow-minded.

My husband and I think we’re pretty warped people. We are completely in love with President Obama (whom our three-year-old is also smitten with; she even has his trading cards). We believe in science over organized religion—but believe that personal faith, as long as it’s separate from the government, is A-OK. We think it’s cool for boys to kiss boys, boys to kiss girls, girls to kiss girls, and kids to kiss dogs. (But kids shouldn’t kiss turtles. I hear there’s a salmonella risk.)

Why does this have to be “warped,” though? (Besides the fact that it’s a cool word.)

Why do we have to feel so out of place smack in the middle of the Bible belt, attending family reunions filled with country-music crooning and hillbilly hollering and glares and jeers at our bumper stickers and offhand remarks about anyone who isn’t white, straight and a follower of Jesus?

Instead of warped, shouldn’t our views be the norm? More and more states are ratifying gay marriage (what the heck is up with you, California?), and we finally have a President who believes in stem cell research and does not want to overturn Roe vs. Wade.

Yet the only places I can feel really at home with how I feel are online—including www.OnePinky.com.

At OnePinky, my “sisters” all accept everyone no matter their creed, sexuality, color or any other factor. Some of us are Christians; some are rather pagan; some prefer to remain nondenominational. And it’s all okay, because if there’s anything we learn at OnePinky, it’s to love ourselves no matter who we are, just as we are, warts, fat, bi polar, astigmatism and all.

“Live and let live” is what we learn, and that doesn’t apply to just ourselves—it applies to the world at large.

OnePinky.com reinforces the idea of tolerance—and most importantly to ourselves! Acceptance is what we should always strive for, here and now and always.

And we are responsible for owning the loveliness that we are. So it is time that we cease letting anyone make us feel that we are wrong with being who we are.

OnePinky, the community opens the door to talk about religion, politics, and all of the issues that people typically shy away from because of the divisiveness. Why should we fear each other so much? Should we not learn from one another instead, and embrace diversity in all of its beautiful forms?

Let’s celebrate being different. And like we’re learning to love ourselves “one pinky at a time,” perhaps the global community can learn to love each other, one person at a time, one difference at a time, until we reach a climate of peace and acceptance.

How has OnePinky.com impacted your view on tolerance and acceptance? Share your thoughts in the comments.

Full Responsibility, Full Speed Ahead

Friday, April 10th, 2009

The Dalai Lama says that, “In the present circumstances, no one can afford to assume that someone else will solve their problems. Every individual has a responsibility to help guide our global family in the right direction. Good wishes are not sufficient; we must become actively engaged.”

Those of you who have finished Lesson One already now know how crucial it is that you accept responsibility for your own actions.

Many of us get so wrapped up in living our lives for others that we forget to take care of—and yes, take responsibility for—ourselves.

How many soccer matches have you gone to without working out yourself?

How many meals have you packed someone’s lunch without concerning yourself with your own nutritional needs?

How many noses have you wiped, prescriptions have you filled, clumps of hair have you held back from the vomiting faces of the sick people you love—without taking responsibility for your own health?

If you don’t take care of you, who will?

No more excuses. It’s time to take control—to take responsibility—of your own life.

Where are you holding back? What are you excelling at?

Post your responses below.

Haven’t gotten through Lesson One yet? You are missing out, friends! Click here to learn more about each lesson and start your journey to Body Image Mastery today.

Love,

Laura

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Positive Self-Talk Pt. 5: The Bottom Line

Friday, February 27th, 2009

The bottom line is that what we say is SO important.  It’s important to the person we’re speaking with, but it’s even MORE important to us.  Every word is like a bite of food.  Ask yourself today:  “Am I feeding myself healthy, positive words?  Or am I filling my belly with negative self-talk and starving my heart and soul?”  The truth is that the more positive we are, the better our lives will be, inside and out.

Positive Self-Talk Pt. 4: Get out (of here)!

Thursday, February 26th, 2009

Get out (of here)! Okay, if you know me personally, my favorite saying is GET OUT (some times I add the “of here”)!  It is as sweet and funny as an expression could be, because I don’t want anyone to get out!  I want everyone to come on in and join the party!  So there’s kind of an inside joke there.  For me, it’s the combination of all of the above sayings with a little twist of humor.  As I’ve learned with twenty-one years of maintaining a 100-pound weight loss, HUMOR is a wonderful tool in ANY situation.  Think of Elaine in Seinfeld. How many times did she scream, “GET OUT OF HERE” as we all cracked up. You must watch some old Seinfeld episodes if you have not watched the show. Elaine is a hoot and this is one of her signature lines.

Positive Self-Talk Pt. 3: No worries.

Wednesday, February 25th, 2009

No worries.  I love the phrase NO WORRIES because it immediately releases another human being from whatever albatross is around their neck (and remember, we often EAT over those things that weigh us down with shame, blame or worry).  It is bigger than don’t worry about it somehow, and yet it does not invalidate the person’s struggle.  It simply says that in this moment, between you and I, you may let go of your burden.  No worries. I picked up NO WORRIES when I was in Australia and it somehow followed me back up here from down under. I notice more and more people in America saying NO WORRIES instead of NO PROBLEM.