Posts Tagged ‘truth’

A Moment of Truth

Wednesday, May 20th, 2009

A PathOnePinky.com member Barb sent in this lovely prose recently, and has granted us permission to share it with the community.

“My Truth”

pain, heartache, anxiety and loss are all life’s way of inviting me to grow
it requires me to name my sorrows,
to identify and explore their cause,
to see their manifestation,
to acknowledge the fear and sadness in my response
to what has become a inconsolable longing inside.

I cannot console what I am not willing to acknowledge;
what I am not willing to name.
I can not know what I am not willing to explore
and I cannot heal what I am not willing to release.

suppressing, hiding, denying, avoiding, minimizing,
pretending and stifling are the architects of
my sorrow, my suffering.
suffering comes from resisting, restraining,
confining.

healing comes from listening, releasing,
letting go, disarming, opening, speaking my truth,
naming what scares me,
exploring the root of my fear(s), telling my stories.

healing comes from presence.
awareness.
a willingness to relinquish
the past.
forgiveness.
healing comes each time I am
present in the moment,
each moment I claim what is true for me.
the moments I speak and write, laugh and cry from my heart
the moments I practice transparency,
the moments I am visible and vulnerable,
the moments I admit I don’t know,
the moments I quit pretending,
the moments I am playful
or serious or tender
the moments I know the difference.
the moments when I trust,
and embrace the complexities of my life and
especially my loves.

I choose the moments,
this moment.
now,
to heal
to be whole
to be authentic
to see the possibilities,
set aside expectations
and to love without conditions.

Thank you so much for sharing, Barb.

Do you have a moment of truth you’d like to share? An “Aha!” moment, an epiphany, or just a quiet realization? Share it here.

Falling From Grace Meant Rising Up

Monday, February 2nd, 2009

Back in the fall, on October 4th, 2008 to be exact, I was walking through a parking lot, excited to get home and head out to my dear friend Lisa’s 50th Birthday party. The next thing I knew, WHAM, I was flying through the air. It was a bad fall – no kidding. To begin with, the shock of falling as an adult is awful. I sat there, badly scraped up and obviously hurt, and I held the space for the little girl inside of me and just cried for a few minutes.

As a body image mentor who has been working through old traumas for many years, I knew that it was vitally important to honor those feelings immediately, IN THE MOMENT. When we’re able to do this, it saves us from having to backtrack and honor them later. But it’s certainly not an easy accomplishment. Many people simply feel embarrassed or ashamed about “falling.” As adults, we steal ourselves to stay composed in tough situations – much more than is realistic or healthy. We train ourselves not to be angry, or to laugh too loudly – and we certainly shouldn’t sit in a parking lot after a bad fall and have a heartfelt cry.

So how did I learn to be in the moment and hold that space? Well, one way was revisiting events where I DIDN’T allow my true, healthy feelings to exist. Take a few minutes today and sit with pen and paper. What are some of those “bad falls” you’ve had – what were your TRUE feelings? Did you rob yourself to look strong while hurting on the inside? And what did you show the world around you, instead?